Location Dependent Friends
0 Comments Published by Deni Lukmanul Hakim on Thursday, November 25, 2010 at 3:25 PM.
Someone said that it just takes five minutes to break a relationship, but months even years needed to establish a good relationship. Yes it's true. It's a fact although sometimes some people couldn't understand why a hard work must be done just to find a best friends.
I have one, a very smart friend who has everything in her own. Graduated from a top university, got an excellent GPA and had a good family. In addition from a complete live that she had, now she is working in a manufacture company as a Corporate Marketing. It's such a good position in a good company.
But with all the things she had, she always told me that sometimes she can't share her happiness, sadness, and stories to someone. Not because she doesn't like it, but the problem is she always used calculation when establishing a new friendship to someone.
The calculation is quite the same comparing to what we got in the simple Business theory that the most important thing which you considered most when you planning to do something is the benefit that you will get from that thing. More simpler, in your mind, there's just only 2 choices: Profit or loss. Useful or useless.
I learn many things from my friend story. As in my case, I usually establish a new friend when I moved into a higher education and a better work place. I met a new friends, I met a new colleagues, and indeed I was starting forgot old friends. I didn't realize anything wrong with this until I experienced a strange condition that I faced when I lost my best friends recurrently just after I move to another environment, either it's a higher education, or a new workplace.
Location dependent friends. Aha. I found a more suitable phrase to picture such a weird situation. Just guess that in our world, I thought most of us feels more comfort to have a friends day-by-day, or maybe week-by-week. Either they are our colleagues, they are classmates, or just meet in a daily activity.
Friends depend on location....sounds weird right? Imagine if you must move to one place to another frequently in every 2 years. Should you change your friends? Should you change the person that will listen to your stories?
Looks like a simple problem, but it will become bigger if your dependent ratio very high.
It was happened with my mom. Since my father bought a new bigger house, he planned to move to our new house. My father is thinking when he become grandfather and have many grandsons and granddaughters visit him. Although I'm not married yet (and have no girlfriends yet :P), my father still insist to prepare all the things from now.
Unfortunately my mother didn't agree with the plan. There is only one reason that she said: "mama udah nyaman sama lingkungan disini.." Ya ya ya..Beside she is Ketua PKK RW, she also had a daily schedule to visit our neighbor's (and also visited by our neighbors :P).
So..plan B must be executed then. We are going to make our house bigger to bring my father's grandsons and granddaughter. Still..although my sister is not married yet (and so do I..heheh)
I have one, a very smart friend who has everything in her own. Graduated from a top university, got an excellent GPA and had a good family. In addition from a complete live that she had, now she is working in a manufacture company as a Corporate Marketing. It's such a good position in a good company.
But with all the things she had, she always told me that sometimes she can't share her happiness, sadness, and stories to someone. Not because she doesn't like it, but the problem is she always used calculation when establishing a new friendship to someone.
The calculation is quite the same comparing to what we got in the simple Business theory that the most important thing which you considered most when you planning to do something is the benefit that you will get from that thing. More simpler, in your mind, there's just only 2 choices: Profit or loss. Useful or useless.
I learn many things from my friend story. As in my case, I usually establish a new friend when I moved into a higher education and a better work place. I met a new friends, I met a new colleagues, and indeed I was starting forgot old friends. I didn't realize anything wrong with this until I experienced a strange condition that I faced when I lost my best friends recurrently just after I move to another environment, either it's a higher education, or a new workplace.
Location dependent friends. Aha. I found a more suitable phrase to picture such a weird situation. Just guess that in our world, I thought most of us feels more comfort to have a friends day-by-day, or maybe week-by-week. Either they are our colleagues, they are classmates, or just meet in a daily activity.
Friends depend on location....sounds weird right? Imagine if you must move to one place to another frequently in every 2 years. Should you change your friends? Should you change the person that will listen to your stories?
Looks like a simple problem, but it will become bigger if your dependent ratio very high.
It was happened with my mom. Since my father bought a new bigger house, he planned to move to our new house. My father is thinking when he become grandfather and have many grandsons and granddaughters visit him. Although I'm not married yet (and have no girlfriends yet :P), my father still insist to prepare all the things from now.
Unfortunately my mother didn't agree with the plan. There is only one reason that she said: "mama udah nyaman sama lingkungan disini.." Ya ya ya..Beside she is Ketua PKK RW, she also had a daily schedule to visit our neighbor's (and also visited by our neighbors :P).
So..plan B must be executed then. We are going to make our house bigger to bring my father's grandsons and granddaughter. Still..although my sister is not married yet (and so do I..heheh)
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